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The science behind healing trauma and exercise

By Darcia Ondrovcik • May 12, 2023

We often hear about the importance of exercise for physical health, but its impact on mental well-being is equally significant. In recent years, researchers have started to explore the connection between exercise and trauma healing. Here we delve into the science behind healing trauma through exercise, shedding light on how physical activity can positively affect the brain, reduce stress and anxiety, and promote overall healing.

How to use strength training to overcome trauma

By Darcia Ondrovcik • May 8, 2023

Traumatic experiences can have a lasting impact on individuals, affecting their mental and physical well-being. The journey to healing from trauma is unique to each person, but there are various therapeutic techniques that can be beneficial. Strength training, in particular, has shown promise in supporting trauma recovery. This article explores the connection between strength training and trauma, discussing how this form of exercise can aid in the healing process.

Book Summary of "The Body Keeps the Score" by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk

By Darcia Ondrovcik • May 7, 2023

"The Body Keeps the Score" by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk explores the profound impact of trauma on the human mind and body, providing a comprehensive understanding of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and its treatment.

How to Heal Your Nervous System after Trauma

By Darcia Ondrovcik • May 5, 2023

Trauma can leave a lasting impact on our nervous system, affecting our mental and physical health. In this guide, we'll explore various techniques and practices to help you heal your nervous system after experiencing trauma.

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Your body is always listening to you! It doesn’t matter if you’re doing “all the things” if you’re talking to yourself like a piece of crap, it’s listening - and responding. Make sure you SAVE THIS REEL so you’ve got these to come back to or even better write them down!! Try these: ❗️Instead of: I’ll never be happy ➡️ say: I choose to create my own happiness ❗️Instead of: I’m a failure ➡️ say: I am learning and evolving ❗️Instead of: I’m not lovable ➡️ say: I am deserving of love and affection ❗️Instead of: I always make mistakes ➡️ say: I embrace my imperfections and learn from them ❗️Instead of: I’m stuck in this situation ➡️ say: I have the power to change and grow ❗️Instead of: I’m so stressed ➡️ say: I choose calm and serenity ❗️Instead of: I can’t do this ➡️ say: I am capable and resilient It’s time you start treating yourself with the love and respect you deserve! Your body is ALWAYS listening! What else would you add? Remember to SAVE so you can use these! This is part of flipping your script! Healing from trauma starts with little small changes - and you don’t have to of gone through trauma to change the way you speak to yourself either. We all carry a bit of self sabotage or speaking in a way to ourselves that isn’t loving or worthy! #healingfromtrauma #selfworthjourney #innerwork #childhoodtrauma #traumainformed #counsellor

Exercise has pulled me out of some heavy times in my life and it’s built a solid resilience from the daily mental and physical push! Just to be clear - exercise IS NOT therapy and it can become unhealthy if you put yourself in a deeper hole and you’re constantly training at a high intensity — which causes more stress to the body. We live in a world that’s saturated with quick fixes: “take this and you’ll feel X” “buy this and you’ll feel X” “take this pill and you’ll lose weight” “take this pill for anti depressants” Why aren’t we saying: “wake up and stretch your body for 10mins every single day day” “lift weights minimum twice a week for min 6 months” “go for a walk minimum 2-3 times a week” “challenge yourself physically and mentally minimum once a week” ……and if you still need medication for antidepressants (cause yes, some cases do and it’s a real thing) then follow through! You underestimate the power of a workout cause our society manipulates you into thinking you’re more ill than you really are. And with everything at your fingertips (online shopping, Uber, Amazon) for some twisted reason you think your mental health should be fixed and delivered overnight too! Just like losing weight and lifting a body weight deadlift - that should be overnight too right? 🤥 🤪 Lace up, lift weights, and be consistent 💥 #mentalstrength #physicalhealth #emotionalintelligence #spiritualhealth #professionalleadership #healingtrauma #fitnessmotivation

Who was told to keep their mouths shut as kids? “Loose lips sink ships” But then you piece it all together and you realise that all the abuse you endured was not ok - you start speaking up, you find your voice, you start asking questions, you start to pull back, you get told to stop making things up, you then have family contacting you asking for more details - and you still get reprimanded RATHER THAN acknowledged for having the courage for speaking up!! Yep!! That was me 👋 So instead of: keeping your mouth shut and sweeping it under the rug like everyone else, and only to protect others in the family (or insert whoever) you *politely* hand them the sticky tape 💥 There’s no excuse for abuse and we should no longer have to hide this in families and that’s why YOU ARE THE CYCLE BREAKER!!!!!! It starts with you, it stops with you! Want change? Be the change? Speak up, be loud, make moves cause you know why……….. People are intimidated by your strength cause you’re no longer struggling like them 🎤 💣 BOOOOOOOOOM!! You can break through childhood trauma, you can break generational trauma, you can create generational healing and you can stop the cycle of abuse! We need voices 🎙️ put a 💣 in the comments if you feel this #childhoodtrauma #breakingcycles #makingmoves #innerwork #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #traumabonding #generationalabuse #generational #counsellors

One HARD TRUTH about TRAUMA SURVIVORS! ➡️FOLLOW @strengthintrauma for more info on breaking family cycles! (Back story: I’ve grown up in family domestic violence have turned my life around and I help others do the same! I speak from lived experiences and the training and education I’ve developed over the years). I understand this is a controversial topic, and others may have a different opinion, but I’m not here to people please - I’m here to speak the truth / and my truth. Given the experience of working with trauma survivors over the years (and being a trauma survivor myself) there is 1 common denominator…. We were ONCE all victims. BUT we are NOT victims forever. The more you keep telling yourself the same story over and over the more it becomes your reality. When I counsel survivors we focus on getting back their power and control back (within their comfort abilities) - because when in a victim mindset we actually still give the power and control to the abuser/perpetrator. Even if it has been so many years from an ‘event’ The longer we stay in the victim mindset the longer the perpetrator has the power. Take responsibility for how you feel, ownership of your life and take BACK YOUR POWER and watch yourself go from survivor to thriver!!!!! No one wants to be honest with you because they are afraid of hurting your feelings - it’s a touchy subject right?? And really… who are we to tell you to stop living in victimhood… BUT I can promise you this - when you are ready, you will see it, you will connect the dots and you will be grateful and feel empowered to cut that ball and chain and live your life without all the labels. I am no way intending you should just “get over it” and “move on” — I am raising a tough conversation because most dance around this topic! Thoughts? Leave a comment #trauma #traumarecovery #traumahealing #traumacore #traumainformed #traumabonding #traumasurvivor #traumatherapy #traumabond #traumatherapist #traumaresponse #traumaawareness #traumabonds #traumawork #healingtrauma #childhoodtrauma

Growing up with abuse taught me so many lessons, as tough as it was I’m very grateful for my experience! If this resonates with you be sure to follow @strengthintrauma for information on how to break family cycles - cause that! I know all too well! Growing up in family domestic violence was NEVER easy, you never knew when shit was gonna hit the fan, (or somehow you did know cause you could sense every mood) I mostly lived in fear, and I never knew when it was going to stop/or ever end… Here’s 5 things I’ve learnt from growing up with an abusive father: 1. Solid as f*ck resilience/and mental fortitude - I’ve endured so many challenges and have been able to push through no matter how many times I was knocked down (emotionally, verbally - and still to this point in my life today - I’m able to handle most challenges). 2. A deep sense of connection - I longed for this as a kid, what I thought was connection was far from it so it’s something I cherish in my life now and am able to cultivate deep connections. 3. Independence - I often felt lonely so I had to navigate life’s challenges on my own, this doesn’t help with being able to ask for help but I’ve gotten so much better at asking when I need it. 4. Emotional intelligence- living with abuse made me mange my emotions (often controlled) but gave me an ability to recognise my own emotions and detect it in others. 5. Advocacy- this experience has pushed me to stand up for myself and have a voice for others — the positive experiences I’ve had in my life because of this will never be forgotten. BONUS: violence does not mean someone loves you! This is NOT OK! I am no longer attached to my childhood and have found peace with my past a long time ago - my experiences have turned into the greatest lessons and these lessons have become life-changing! There’s no excuse for abuse. PERIOD! Have you overcome adversity and it’s changed the trajectory of your life? Should I share more lessons from an abusive childhood? Meet me in the comments! #domesticviolence #noexcuseforabuse #domesticviolenceawareness #childhoodtrauma #mentalhealthmatters

Just calling it for what it is! Not everything is a trauma response, not everything means your nervous system is dysregulated, nor does it mean you need the next Nervous System Reset Program! I feel like the ‘wellness world’ of social media even down to practitioners are “over analysing” and “over diagnosing” the masses — and now the masses are starting to think they’re worse off, or they need to book in with Tom, Dick and Susie cause they feel like “said emotion” definitely comes from childhood… Look, I grew up in family domestic violence and have worked through A LOT of trauma, I’ve also had to reset my nervous system to feel safe and secure to get out of fight, flight and freeze response - AND I’ve dealt with patients for several years working through trauma!! I’m seeing some pretty big calls on this app about healing trauma in 30 days, reset your nervous system in 21 days with “X” program! I get people have good intentions - but we’re so far away from knowing our true selves we run to this app like it’s the f*cking god send of all ‘mental health issues’ If you’ve been through trauma, adversity and are experiencing real mental health issues please see a practitioner who you know is legitimately qualified and trained in the area you’re seeking help.! Not just some viral video that now offers a “30 day program” that claims to be healed! Healing from trauma takes time, it’s deep deep work, normally requires multiple modalities - and yes, potentially movement throughout your body - but NOT rocking your hips side to side for 30 days and then BOOM “all trauma is gone” 🤥 this MIGHT release tension but it’s not the one and only healing modality for trauma or for setting the nervous system. Keep this in mind, in the words of @drjamesdinic Natural antidepressants: - sunshine - laughing - lifting weights - playing a sport - physical connection - walk of jog - oceans, lakes, rivers Go get it family, go within, be bigger than your excuses and stop looking externally to fix your ‘problems’, get the right people in your corner and propel your life forward 💥 #mentalhealthissues #healingfromtrauma #childhoodtrauma

Chatting about breaking family cycles, the ‘over diagnosis’ on this app, and the importance of self-reflection ❤️ If you’re watching the reply - be sure to ask a question 🙌🏾 Appreciate you 🥰

Pull out your pen and paper! I’ve got you with these deeper journal prompts!🔥 When you stay curious to yourself and your own journey you can block out the noise around you and go within! Depends where you’re at on your healing journey but the “deepening” to self can always be improved. I always like to get my patients/clients to ask themselves some deeper questions - this allows for curiosity, answers, uncertainty, emotions to arise, body movements to tune into and self-discovery. Here are another 5 deeper questions you can ask yourself. Remember to SAVE THIS REEL so you’ve got the questions: 1. In what ways do I sabotage my own happiness, and what fears or insecurities drive these self-destructive behaviours? 2. How has the narrative of my past traumas shaped my sense of identity, and what aspects of this narrative am I ready to redefine? 3. What unmet needs from my childhood am I still trying to fulfill in my adult relationships, and how can I address them more effectively? 4. What parts of myself have I disowned or rejected, and how can I integrate and embrace all aspects of who I am? 5. What role does vulnerability play in my life, and am I willing to allow myself to be seen authentically, flaws and all? I encourage you to get out a pen and paper/or your journal and write down these questions, answer them truthfully on your own. These journal prompts will allow you to connect deeper to yourself, understand yourself a bit more and ultimately empower you to take the steps you need to, to move forward. These prompts alone won’t heal childhood trauma but they will encourage reflection. And sometimes we need to look into our own shadows and see how we’re self-sabotaging ourselves! Shadow work can really be so beneficial - there’s so much more to it than just 5 questions though….. Give these a go and let me know how you go! And check out my other REEL on my profile with the first 5 deep questions I posted yesterday. Fair few saves on that one so I wanted to follow up with more for you! Thanks for being here, you matter and I appreciate you! 🙌🏾 #journalprompts #healingwounds #innerworkisthebestwork #counsellors #childhoodtrauma

Anyone else sick of all the “over diagnosis” here on this app? I saw a video recently about decorating your home meant you’ve got a dysregulated nervous system 🙀 And all the videos and info out there about rocking your hips and it’ll heal your trauma 🤔 Seriously people! This shit does more damage! We’re so quick to label and manipulate the masses into thinking they’re worse off than what they really are! Give VALID ‘suggestions’ rather than labelling Karen and Nancy down the road who just wanna jump on here for a bit of fun - now they think they’re nervous system is out of whack cause they moved shit around their house - or bloody Susan who now rocks her hips side to side then wonders why all her trauma didn’t ‘suddenly disappear’ Geeeez Louise!!!!! What you doing out here? 😳 🚩Not everything is a trauma response 🚩And just cause you’re eye twitched doesn’t mean your nervous system needs the next reset program! 🙏🏽Please for the love of god stop labelling the masses for your own selfish intentions! Y’all just need to lay your foundations first: food, water, shelter, clothing, movement, nature……..focus on the basics and allow your life to unfold just as it will! Life “after trauma and hardship” is a really great experience to “get to” and you could be way further along than you think. But your journey is your journey - take everything you consume here as a grain of salt and go WITHIN to your heart and soul and LISTEN to what is coming up for YOU! There is absolutely some GREAT information on this app about real issues and great advice is offered - but the next time you feel easily triggered into something - just take a moment before accepting that label as your identity 💥 Anyone else feel this? #youarethehealer #honestyonly #fearmongering #childhoodtrauma

I want to be able to empower you to ‘heal’ yourself! We truly are more powerful than we realise and I’m not one to beat around the bush — eg: if I can get you to do your own inner work simply by seeing something that I post and it just ‘clicks’ with you — then that’s awesome! Sadly, I see too many on here constantly fear mongering people about trauma and all of a sudden you think you’re way more messed up than you really are!! We have the ability and power to go within ourselves to do our ‘own’ work — yes, there’ll be people who come into your life that will be able to pull it out of you — but what they’re doing is creating a safe space for you to go within!! Here are 5 DEEP journal questions to ask yourself to go right in there: 1. What pain am I carrying from my past and how is it effecting my present? 2. Am I allowing myself to grieve losses? Or am I suppressing emotions to avoid pain? 3. What patterns from my past am I unconsciously repeating? And why? 4. How do I define love? And do I believe I am deserving of it? 5. What aspects of my identity have I neglected or denied due to external expectations? **always ask yourself why/why not at the end to go even deeper** Write down these journal prompts and see what comes up for you. On your own, no one around and FEEL into it all! Feel every emotion, expression and movement within your body - tune into your soul ❤️‍🩹 Is this supportive? Let me know in the comments 🙌🏾 and be sure to SAVE THIS REEL I appreciate you being here! You can heal from trauma, adversities and hardships - the biggest thing that cultivates healing is a safe space! Some practitioners don’t know how to hold a safe space and at times it can leave others feeling stuck! Give yourself permission to listen to your intuition - you have a sixth sense for a reason ❤️ Use these journalling prompts to get you going 🙏🏽

Don’t get me wrong here, these are REAL issues and some therapists on here are really bringing some informal information in these areas👏🏽👏🏽 But it becomes an issue where you’ve got people now self diagnosing themselves cause of what they’ve ‘seen’ here on IG - I like to call it “INSTA-THERAPY” Sadly, people are becoming attached to these labels and forgetting about focusing on their lives off the app - they are becoming so self absorbed within their own ‘stuff’ they stop living and they start labeling - which leads to overthinking, procrastination and believe it or not anxiety! Let’s take it back to basics: Have you drank water today? Did you get a good nights sleep? Did you get outside today? Did you exercise/move your body today? Have you got warmth? Have you got shelter? People be out here diagnosing themselves when they haven’t even laid their foundation! You’re not putting the roof on when you haven’t laid the floors!! Strip it back and build from there! Let’s not overcomplicate the process 🫶🏽 #drinkyourwater #backtobasics #selfdiagnosis #mentalhealthawareness #childhoodtrauma

There’s a difference between taking accountability and the action that’s going to move you forward AND sitting in your own pity party! Flip your script: turn your badge of honour into “I overcame deep hardship and I am now thriving, I have nothing but peace in my life and I deserve to be here” But you might say: “but Darcia, what I went through was so bad and I just can’t seem to get out of it” And I will say: “I get that, you have every right to feel that way, no it was not fair, but you have the responsibility to do what it takes now to take your power and control back so it no longer controls you” You then say “well how?” I say, by focusing on this, in this order: 1. physiological needs (food, water, shelter, warmth) 2. safety needs (security, safety) 3. belongingness and love needs (friends, intimate r’ships) 4. esteem needs (prestige, feelings of accomplishment) 5. self-actualisation (achieving full potential, creative activities) These are broken up into 3 categories: 1. Basic needs (1&2) 2. Psychological needs (3&4) 3. Self-fulfilment needs (5) If you are trying to fulfil your self-actualisation needs first but your basic needs (food, water, shelter, warmth) aren’t met you won’t have great luck. Whilst this is not the only answer to help you feel unstuck it is a GREAT START! This is generally speaking: there are different models and modalities that can be applied and it depends where you’re at on your journey as to what approach will suit you best! If you’re ready to dive deep into doing your own inner work I have 4 therapy journals (plus a bonus guide) for you to jump into and start breaking cycles! Comment JOURNAL and I’ll send the info #childhoodtrauma #healingthepast #innerwork #mentalhealthawareness #generationaltrauma

Pep talk for ya 👂 Listen to this video - and if it resonates with you be sure to follow @strengthintrauma for real truths on breaking family cycles! It’s one thing to share knowledge, education and information - and then it’s another when someone is coming from lived experience! Put both together and dayuumm I’ve got chuuu 😉 I’ve been through the trenches - and I’m in there with you! Healing from trauma can happen as quick or as slow as you like - it’s your journey you get to decide that. When you pull one layer back that you’ve broken through - another layer will crack - and then another - and again —- there’s no “I’ve healed now” but there is “I CAN HANDLE THIS SO WELL NOW” If you choose to not move your body, eat shit food and not go outside - then you’ve got to be prepared for what’s to come from that! Face the pain, face the fear, visit your childhood and move the f*ck “THROUGH” it! I’m fired up more than ever helping others break family cycles - I’m putting all my skills, training, education and knowledge together and geeezzzz it’s exciting! Cycle Breakers let’s do this!!!! Leave a 🔥 if you’re the cycle breaker in your family and you hold your mission close to your heart!! #breakingfamilycycles #overcomingtrauma #generationalhealing #generationalabuse #generationaltrauma #innerchildwork

Mine was⤵️ But first did you know: MUSIC is the one thing humans can’t live without! Yep! That’s a real fact! And be sure to comment so we can find others who did this too! Alright, I always listened to TECHNO - Nick Skitz letsssgooooo that dance music always put me in a better mood! Nick Skitz for life LOLS!!!!!!! Also listened to Enya - hmm wonder why! Prob, cause it’s peaceful and that’s all I wanted 🙀🤔 Music still to this day, heals my soul! It helps with healing trauma! If you had moments with ‘music’ as a kid and you wonder why it still hits you so deeply today ——- it’s cause it’s attached to an emotional memory! Childhood trauma normally plays a significant memory in this case! So, keep pumping your fav tunes! And don’t forget to dance it all out 🙌🏾 We out here breaking generational trauma and breaking family cycles! You with me?? Yeewwww let’s go! What did you have on repeat? 🔁 #childhoodtrauma #healingwounds #dothework #danceforthesoul #edmforlife #nickskitz

Alright let me break this right down for ya! But first be sure to follow for more truths 💣 @strengthintrauma And make sure you read the last point cause it’s 🔑 Let’s geddittt! You overthink? Every thought is on repeat? You do your own fuuuuucking head in? And then you don’t take any action…you stop and you don’t “do” Wanna know why? Because you’ve given WAAAAAY too much thought to that story/narrative that’s gone on in your head - AND because you may have felt a threat/or unsafe these thoughts have popped up! So now, your head goes 🛎️ ding ding ding ahhh threat, overthink overthink overthink - this scenario, that scenario, but this, but that, what if this, what if that… ohhh man now I’m exhausted - oh shit, now I can’t do ANYTHING!! Just remember this is a natural response and you’re not the only one this happens to - so no, you’re not f*cked up! Now how do you get out of this - well firstly you’ve just got to accept it and then take SMALL actions: ie move the f*ck on with your day!!!! Get up, get moving, onto “LIFE” Key sentence here➡️➡️ MOVE YOUR BODY regularly!!!! Most people get stuck in their heads overthinking cause they’re not moving their bodies - the mind needs movement or it’ll become mega anxious!!! Movement = - reduced anxiety - stress relief - energy - tuning into the body - taking back power and control - better clarity - releases chemicals that make us feel good - boosts self-esteem And if you’re still overly in this overthinking space and you do move your body regularly……well……that’s a post for another time! Start moving your body! ✌🏽 #overthinkingquotes #overthinkingquotes #childhoodtrauma #counsellors

Brief bio⤵️ But remember - come and say Hi in the comments after you’ve read to the bottom - I wanna find ‘my people’ where you at?? My whole life’s mission has been to break the cycle in my family. I grew up family domestic violence and knew I didn’t want a future like that. I’ve busted my arse for years to seek and live a better way of life! And it started out from a very young age. I used fitness as a way to cope, eventually too many parties and everything else that comes with it - I’ve numbed my pain, punished myself, made lots of mistakes, started over again and again, went from r’ship to r’ship, overachiever, over thinker, you name it I’ve put myself through it - ALL to not live a life like my childhood! Deep inner work has literally turned my life around and I now help others do the same! As a counsellor, I’m seeing my patients go from survivor to thriver — and as a digital business consultant I’m seeing others break family cycles and take their power and control back! I live in my purpose, and I want that for you too! Come say hi, let’s get to know each other! 👋 and if you want to step into digital marketing and be the first cycle breaker in your family comment: CYCLE BREAKER and I’ll be by your side the whole time when you take this step 🙌🏾 #cyclebreaker #generationaltrauma #childhoodtrauma #digitalmarketingconsultant #generationalwealth

What is it? Let’s support each other in the comments and encourage others to do ONE thing to support their mental health - because YOUR mental health matters? What’s yours? I’m going to the beach, spend time in the sun, and creating memories with my family! (Sunday here in Australia and it’s family day Sunday) #mentalhealthmatters #familydaysunday #australianbeaches #breakingthecycle #healingtrauma

I don’t expect you to understand this but I have a deep sense of gratitude for the abuse I witnessed as a kid. I grew up in family domestic violence and I saw things where I thought my mums life was going to be ended! This was just one scenario - the other times my dad would always threaten to take my mums life and “get rid of her now” — as he would say. I was just 10 years old when I saw my dad strangle my mum. I’ve been able to work on myself since the age of about 17 years old when I left home and the one thing that kept me solid and grounded was exercise! At times, exercise was a punishment but it helped me grow a lot of strength, resilience, self-respect and self-love. Here’s what I encourage you to do if you’ve been through adversities in life: - lift weights (and at times train at high intensity) - read books (deeply immerse yourself into books in all areas that elevate your life) - stop hanging around the sheep (people who follow people) - find the lions, and hang around them (where are the ppl who are going to support you and elevate you - find them, learn from them and propel your life) - stay away from alcohol and drugs - get outside in the sun, water, and nature - find someone you trust who you can share your adversities with, someone who can hold space for you without judgement - find a community, (something that is healthy, uplifting and positive) - and don’t ever ever give up You’re worthy of living an amazing life despite what you’ve been through! I was born into the world with a disadvantage (but, that’s if I want to believe that story right) — if I can do it so can you! All those things I mentioned is exactly what I did to turn my life around - I wasn’t always on track, I made many f*ck ups, have taken my share of drugs and alcohol, have self sabotaged and have been around the sheep — but deep down I know my purpose is greater than those things and that fire burns inside cause I NEVER want a life of what my childhood was like! Say Hi in the comments if you’ve been through adversities and trauma? #childhoodtrauma #domesticviolence #domesticviolenceawareness #healingfromtrauma #healingfromabuse #mentalhealthawareness

Feeling stuck? Most will get stuck in life and not live the life they’ve wanted to after trauma! So, why is that? Because you keep doing the same things expecting a different result. Clearly, if the things you were doing were helping you, you wouldn’t still be unhappy on the inside or repeating the same old patterns. So, how do you fix this. It’s simple - try a different route. If you’re still going out and drinking - don’t do it. If you’re eating shit food - don’t eat it. If you’re not exercising or moving your body - try exercising and move your body. If you’re staying inside - get outside in the sun. Write down the exact patterns you are repeating and write down another 5 positive patterns you can implement into your life so it’s not on repeat. And if you still feel like you’re stuck and you are taking action toward change seek a professional for help - so you can adopt different therapy modalities. I help my patients live their best lives after trauma! I have patients go from survivor to thriver - I focus heavily on the recovery side and bring in actionable processes to get out of the rut! Don’t blame your past take your power and control back! Comment INFO and I’ll share how you can work with me. I offer 1:1 sessions as a one off or minimum 3 months 🙌🏾 #childhoodtrauma #breakingcycles #healingtrauma #counsellors

There’s a whole level of strength and resilience when you can pull yourself ‘back’ to a state of empowerment and peace — this is all done within YOU! And you have the power to create this —- you have the CAPACITY and CAPABILITY to achieve this! If you look externally; other people, modalities, material things, superficial things……..you won’t find your resilience, strength and peace — well…..maybe only for a very short time! “Be so resilient that your “safe space” is within you” Read that again!!!! Healing trauma takes a long as you allow it - but in saying that you are never FULLY healed! It’s a lifelong commitment - you owe it to yourself! Build resilience ✨ Create your own safe space 💥 And go within 🥰 You’ve got this! Would you say you’re at a point in your life where this statement runs true for you? Let me know in the comments 🙌🏾 #childhoodtrauma #buildingresilience #breakthecycle #innerstrength

Taylor Swift is not therapy.. Just like wine is not therapy, exercise is not therapy, course after course is not therapy, gossip sessions are not therapy, coffee is not therapy…….. Things like this can send the ‘wrong’ messages to the younger generation (or anyone really) — which doesn’t help a person out! It’s actually not taking responsibility and accountability to truly “do the work” Not being a hater - just calling for what it is. Your healing journey MATTERS! Your childhood trauma experience is worth more attention than a sweater! Breaking the cycle takes more than wearing a piece of clothing! Go within and do the deep inner work — and surround yourself with the right people to propel you forward! Stuffing your life with helpless coping strategies will soon expire —- until you do the deep inner work! What’s your thoughts on this, truly keen to hear it? #childhoodtrauma #counsellors #traumahealing #dotheinnerwork

Whaaaatssuuuppp! I am so glad you are here 🙋🏼‍♀️ I am so passionate about seeing others heal trauma, break family cycles and live life on their own terms despite what they’ve been through! Through my own personal adversities and traumas I’ve been able to achieve a life I never thought was possible and now I’m helping others do the same! Through overcoming childhood trauma, healing wounds, going from survivor to thriver, gaining confidence, building resilience and taking your power back — I am here with you through it all 💥 Say hi in the comments 👋 🥰

Here’s what I’m doing to break cycles in my family so my girls don’t have to carry the burden I had to! ☝🏽 I purchased a digital marketing course (from digital wealth academy) and studied it thoroughly so I can apply what I learnt to my counselling business and I chose to start a new business in digital marketing ✌🏽 I set up my business so it runs on automation: everything from my store front, funnels, emails, and systems. This is super beneficial for when I’m not physically on IG. 95% of my digital marketing business is done for me (this is all taught to you in the course) ✌🏽☝🏽Resell rights (MRR), this course is available to resell for 100% profit! This course comes with licensing rights, meaning I now own the course and can resell it for 100% profit — you don’t have to if you don’t want to - you can use the course for your own personal use. But, why not turn it into a business - when you have the rights to it? 🤷🏼‍♀️ This opportunity allows me to serve my clients in the highest capacity, it allows me to take time off from my private practice whenever I want to, it allows me to be so flexible with mum/and family life AND the ultimate for me —- it helps set up my kids future so they never have to experience what I did! We talk about breaking generational trauma but who’s teaching us about creating generational wealth! If we can pass down trauma surely we can pass down WELL-TH (a new type of freedom holistically). Im about that impact, legacy and freedom! And you are too right? Thats why you’re here! Be sure to scroll over to “The Potential” slide to see how this can be life changing… Want to know more? Comment “CYCLE BREAKER” and follow: @strengthintrauma

You’re thinking it - and I’m saying it, and giving you permission! The earlier you start standing up for yourself the more peace you will have. PERIOD. Whether it’s with your family, friends, colleagues or your r’ships/marriage —— now is the time to start speaking your truth. So, next time you feel triggered or someone robbed you from your peace. Try saying this: - I no longer engage in conversations that serve me in a lower state - I can be here to listen for you but I no longer engage in talking about others that do not serve either of us - orrrrrr disengage because it’s not worth the drama that comes with it This is exactly what I focus on with my patients - not exactly telling their families to shut the f*ck up 🫨🤪 But it’s about taking your power back - speaking up IF there is a need to and living in alignment with your truth - and if you don’t know what your truth is — we discover that too! Comment INFO if you’re ready to propel your healing forward - I will spending 90mins with you and we will unlock what’s holding you back 💥💥💥 Healing childhood trauma can feel messy on your own and having the ‘right’ support to discuss your trauma journey can be the difference between feeling stuck and on repeat to feeling safer, more secure and going from survivor to thriver ❤️ #childhoodtrauma #breakingcycles #healingtrauma

Look, don’t watch this if you have an issue with people eating and talking 😬😬😬 #sorrynotsorry #wasinthemoment I’ve made a personal commitment to myself - that if I’m using this app for connection/business then I want to show you my authenticity too - if I want your authenticity then I’ve got to show up that way! I want to cut through the BS, call it for what it is and share some hard truths….you’ll either stay or go 🤷🏼‍♀️ There’s parts of me you don’t see cause I too, compare myself, judge myself and think “what are people going to think of me… BUT I’ve been through enough shit in my life to be worrying about that — my mission and legacy is massive and I realised if I’m not taking my mission seriously then you’re not gonna take me seriously either! I’ve chosen to really step up this year, in all areas of my life — and I encourage you to do the same! I’m in a love/hate r’ship with IG - I love it for connection, business, and empowerment — but I too can compare, self-sabotage and not show my true self! I’m actually real sick of seeing the fake side of IG, the labeling and the “highlights” of people living an “amazing and happy” life… So, here’s what I want you to do: - take social media breaks - go out in nature - have deep conversations with people in real life - stop wallowing in your ‘stuff’ - do stuff in your life as if IG wasn’t a ‘thing’ - unfollow accounts that trigger you, make you feel less of, make you doubt yourself, make you label yourself (take it as a grain of salt) - start using the app for fun and sharing your true self …and the most important part: use your kids Elsa plates to eat your lunch from cause their not around 🤷🏼‍♀️😂…and don’t talk with your mouth full 😮🤦🏼‍♀️😂 #2024ismyyear #igtruth #socialmediatip #childhoodtrauma #healingtrauma #authenticitymatters

Are you behaving like an adult? Did any of these trigger you? Why? Did any of these empower you? Why? Did any of these along with how you live your life? How/why? Tag a friend who needs to see this!! #childhoodtrauma #healingtrauma #breakingcycles #dailyposts #motivationposts #wordsofinspiration

When one parent is a narcissist….. At some point you’ve got to look back at your past and see where certain patterns and behaviours come from — this will allow you to move forward - it will help you connect the dots! It will also help you understand your parents behaviour — and it will MAKE SENSE as to why one of them / or both had certain behaviours in the household!!! Start in your own backyard and propel your life forward!!!!! #narcissticabuse #childhoodtrauma #breakingcycles #trauma #traumahealing #traumabonding #traumarecovery

Using exercise as your therapy - but you still feel like shit inside? Exercise is not the answer to all your problems, just like drugs and alcohol aren’t the answer to your problems! I use to punish myself with exercise and still be riddled with chaos internally - that’s because I hadn’t dealt with my childhood! Healing childhood trauma takes more than exercising, eating well and talking to a therapist. It can be a combination of both…..and other things…and when you find the therapist who can open your can of worms but nurture you - you will be on your way quicker than you think. Exercise WILL build confidence, it will help you get stronger internally and externally, it will help you set stronger boundaries, it will help you to surround yourself with other likeminded people — but it is not the ONLY way.. As a counsellor, I input a holistic approach, my patients are either already training or they start training when they join my services. I write them individualised programs to suit their situation and we take into account their history of trauma and do what needs to be done! If you’re ready for a holistic approach and are ready to take ownership on your life I’ve got 1 more spot left for March for a 1:1 counselling session. DM me if its yours 🔥

What did your childhood teach you? No matter what you took from it, let’s hear it! Post separate comments if you want to share more than one! Let’s learn from one another 🙌🏾✨ #childhoodtrauma #breakthecycles #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness

Would you do this? #dateyourself #spendtimealone #innerworkisthebestwork

You’re the problem child aren’t you? The one always getting in trouble, always being blamed, always being picked on, siblings always accusing you, always at the other end of ‘their’ anger, their punching bag!!! I get it! This was me too! But I realised, cause I didn’t fit into their mould of who I ‘should’ be in the world it triggered them. Cause they could see I was perhaps “different” to the rest it triggered them….and who you gonna take it out on?? You’ve got to find someone!! So, rather than your story becoming “I was the problem child, it was always my fault” let’s flip that and say “I was the one who challenged their deep insecurities and fears” “It’s because I am strong and powerful they didn’t know how to handle my true strength - so them controlling me was their best” “I seemed to be the problem because I am the one who’s speaking up” “I no longer conform to the image I was perceived as, because of those experiences it has shaped me but it does not define me” LFG RIIIIGHHHTTT! The quicker you accept your strengths and your trauma as your superpower the quicker you’ll feel UNSTUCK!!!!! C’mon I’ve got chuuu! You can do this! I’ve got 1 more sport left for a 1:1 session for March! If you’re ready to flip your script and see your true worth and value I’ll help you write your narrative so your future self is exactly where you want to be cause we take the actions in the present that’ll get you there! Comment ME and I’ll be in touch! #childhoodtrauma #breakthecycle #dothework

Na, but seriously! The amount of joy I experience when I have others reach out saying they’re so ready to work through their pasts so they can move through it and live an amazing life!!!!! I have women turn their whole lives around in under 3 months!! And it gets me sooooo excited! I honestly show them the “incredible things” about themselves to feel empowered to flip their script, build the most strength internally and externally and be on their way! If you’re in a position where you constantly feel stuck, you’ve been through tough sh*t in your life and you’re ready to take your power back - I’ve got space for 2 more 1:1 patients. Comment INFO and I’ll send you a DM I’ve got you 🙌🏾❤️

Have you ever been told to “get over your trauma?” This can be so triggering, disheartening and another reason why you won’t share what’s going on for you! This can have many knock on effects - without realising the damage that can be done! I like to use the analogy of if someone had a car accident - we wouldn’t expect them to just “get over it” we know it’ll take time, healing and support! Recovering from trauma is the exact same - we just don’t see the physically scars — but they are just impactful - if not, more for trauma survivors - depending the situation! So, whether you are recovering from trauma or you are supporting someone’s recovery - remember there is no timeline for healing - it is up to the individual ❤️

I know this will land with a few of you! It was never you it was “them” 🙀 Did you have to experience this?

Alright, don’t come at me here! I totally understand how some may take this personally but I’m not here to live my life based off of your feelings. I’m here to encourage you to flip your script and live the most incredible life despite what you’ve been through! Even if it means tough conversations and honest feedback. What gives me the strength to put these statements out there? I was raised in an abusive household, I was exposed to a large amount of violence - I saw my mum being held up against the fridge being strangled — thinking she was going to die - I was ONCE a victim! My experiences have put me here today: working as a counsellor specialising in overcoming past traumas. I know first hand what it takes and I also know the damage of what happens when you identify with being the victim your whole life. This can sound harsh and I don’t expect you to fully understand it right now. But, please know this: you are way more capable of what you think, what happened to you is not your fault but you are responsible with how you choose to live your life (now). I see far too many victims not know what to do to move on and this can be crippling. To unleash yourself of the imprisonment we can hold ourselves captive in you’ve got to flip your script, take back your power, take control and find an inner strength that NO ONE can take away from you! This is exactly what I work on with my patients and I see women break cycles, and go from survivor to thriver in under 3 months! If you feel like you’re not getting anywhere and you’re ready to LIVE rather than EXIST I have capacity for 2 more 1:1 counselling patients. Comment READY and I’ll be in touch ✨ Let your light shine 💡 ✨ ❤️ #takemypowerback #victimsupport #childhoodtrauma #innerwork #counsellorlife

We are at the end of my 5 part series on “things I wished I knew about healing generational trauma” In this video I highlight: - how your experience can effect your romantic relationships - how you perceive your own self worth and value - the importance of facing what’s going on rather than hiding and running away - the importance of seeking professional help - and most importantly prioritising your own relationship with yourself If you’re only seeing this video please go back and watch all 5 videos I’ve posted over the last 5 days. Let me know which one resonates with you the most! Should I keep doing short vids like these ones on the topics of healing trauma + sharing my own personal experience? Let me know in the comments! I hope you got a lot out of these — they’re not in anyway to “heal” you and it’s definitely not “therapy” Don’t forget to follow @strengthintrauma for more education on healing and breaking family cycles! #childhoodtrauma #healingtrauma #generationalabuse #generationalabuse #cyclebreakers

Hate to break this to you⤵️ But……no matter the work you do on yourself you will be continuously triggered!! Rather than thinking you’ve gone backwards use it as a way to implement what you have learnt about yourself! Eg: how would you normally respond vs how you respond now with the extra tools in your tool belt? Question: Have you recognised being triggered and did you respond differently? What did you do? How did it feel? Stay tuned for PART 5, tomorrow, same time 🔥 Don’t forget to follow @strengthintrauma for more information about breaking family cycles - I’ve got you! PS - this is not therapy. Please don’t take these little snippets as gospel toward your journey. I am speaking from personal experience. #generationaltrauma #breakthecycle #childhoodtrauma #innerwork

Look I know we all want saved… I had a counselling session yesterday and I could hear my patient just wants saving — it would take all the ‘problems’ away. But if our life’s journey was about being hand held the whole way through what are you going to learn? What lessons will you get? Would you be fulfilled? Would you feel like you truly accomplished something? Probably not! But hey, some people might! 🤷🏼‍♀️ So, instead of agreeing with my patient and saying “yes, that is what’s going to happen” I laid it out straight! “NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE YOU!” In order for you to live an amazing life it is going to take every ounce of strength to get up, do the work, do hard things, push through challenges, ask more of yourself, try different approaches, fail, get back up again, get honest, have tough conversations…..I could go on! If it were easy, we’d all be doing it right! The harsh truth can really piss you off cause it’s NOT what you WANT to hear but it is what you NEED to hear! I will walk the journey with my patients through thick and thin, I care deeply about all of them but I will also hold them accountable! YOU are the one that SAVES YOURSELF!!! Others give you lessons, blessings and opportunities to rise💥 Did this land? Put a 💥 in the comments if you resonate! #breakthecycle #bethechange #childhoodtrauma #counsellors #generationaltrauma #truthbomb #nooneissavingyou

Is this you⤵️ You start your own healing journey and then you’ve tried to get your family to do the things that are helping you but rather than enlightening them it’s been disappointing? Yep! I’ve been there! The most empowering sentence I want you to embrace is: LEAD DON’T PLEAD🔥🔥🔥 When you are leading you are taking actions to propel your life forward! When you are pleading you are repeating the same old viscous patterns - and begging for others peoples approval/opinion/acceptance. You need to get comfortable knowing you can’t change your family, you can only change yourself! Their journey is theirs — and at times they won’t change! It is only when you accept this you will not get caught up in their opinions of you - cause at the end of the day - NO ONE else’s opinions matters!!! Drop a “🔥” in the comments if you feel this Stay tuned for PART 4 tomorrow, posting at the same time. **This is not therapy. This is me sharing my personal experience with the intention to empower others to live their best lives. Please seek professional help if you need support**

Are you sick of labelling yourself with all these “potential issues?” I feel ya! In a world where now we somehow think it’s valid to come here to IG go to a few therapists pages and all of a sudden we’ve now “diagnosed” ourselves with the “thing” that everyone is now talking about…… Some of these things include: - anxiety - depression - ADHD - CPTSD - high functioning depression - dysregulated nervous system - everything you experience is a trauma response ….just to name a few Here’s the thing!! You may resonate with some of the information that is put out there, and you may notice some patterns within yourself but please do not label yourself or self diagnose yourself from instagram! To truly see what is going on for you and your personal experiences seek professional help by spending time with a therapist who specialises in the area you “might” want to explore. Now, I’m not saying the information you consume isn’t useful. I’m saying don’t keep putting all these labels to your name cause no doubt you’ll think you’re worse off than what you really are! Therapy is a process - it does not involve watching a 10 second clip about “insert condition” and all of a sudden you’re “healed”. There’s more to it.. Mental health is not a trend!!!! It can’t be anymore real for those who are truly working through their “stuff” Ask yourself: who am I without the labels? What’s your thoughts on this? #mentalhealthawareness #childhoodtrauma #traumatherapy #counsellors

Are you the cycle breaker in your family? Have you been through tough sh*t in your life and you know you’re here to be the one who stops generational trauma? In this video I share Part 2 of 5 things I wished I knew about healing generational trauma: INTERGENERATIONAL COMMUNICATION: - learning to communicate openly with older generations - about trauma, your experience, or what you feel - seek facts and truths - this helps understand what actions to take - helps decision making (whether it’s big or small) Remember, this is your journey. Do what feels right for you! **Social media is not therapy. Please do not take these small snippets of what I share as personally directed at you and your experience. This highlights my personal experience and education** Stay tuned for PART 3 tomorrow, same time 💥 Follow @strengthintrauma for more insight, inspiration and education on breaking cycles of generational trauma and how to flip your script and live the most peaceful and loving life despite what you’ve been through ❤️ #generationalimpact #cyclebreaker #childhoodtrauma

It goes like this ⤵️ But first - SAVE this reel➡️ If you find yourself doing “the work” internally but you’re talking to yourself like a piece of sh*t, self-sabotaging, feeling sorry for yourself, spiraling constantly then you will only get so far and you’ll be on repeat - and you will also TRY and replace the “work” by doing MORE… Your body is listening to every single word you are saying to yourself — and it WILL “act/behave/respond” to what is truly going on underneath.. So, if you want the ‘healing process’ at a gradual growth so you feel like you’re progressing try this: - become aware of your thoughts (write them down: how are you talking to yourself/what language do you use) - give yourself grace and compassion (this is unknown territory allow feelings and emotions to come up) - observe don’t judge (observe what is going on without judgement) - stay curious (explore your own curiosity) Treat yoself like you are the most loved human on this earth - because YOU ARE and you deserve to treat yourself with the most love, kindness and respect! If you are ready to go within and start doing your own inner work and would like workbooks with questions to get you started on your healing journey comment “HEALING” I have 5 therapy workbooks that will help you ✨ #childhoodtrauma #generationaltrauma #cyclebreaker

Which one is it for you? #childhoodtrauma #breakingthecycle #generationaltrauma

Hey! Come and have a laugh with me! We can always do with a bit more laughter in our lives 🤭 Expressing yourself in a safe space is sometimes all we need to progress forward! No judgement here 🙌🏾 #havealaugh #safespaces #childhoodtrauma #breakthecycle

Do you ever wonder what it takes to heal generational trauma? There can be so many parts to it and it can make you feel overwhelmed - and like you’re on a hamster wheel. But I’m here to tell you, you can break it down into smaller chunks where you’ll feel like you’re progressing forward in your life - no matter what. In this video I share information about “understanding family dynamics” and this is what it can be broken down into👇🏽 - generational trauma shapes family relationships - everyone has an individual relationship with each other - ask questions to different people in the family to help your own journey Everyone’s situation and family dynamic is completely different - so only do what feels right to you. Stay tuned for Part 2 on 5 things I wished I knew about healing generational trauma - I’ll be posting at the same time ✨ **This is not therapy advice - please do not take snippets of what I share on IG as therapy. This is for educational, speaking from personal experiences and shining a light on what can be perceived as tough conversations** Put a ❤️ in the comments if part 1 resonates and don’t forget to follow: @strengthintrauma @strengthintrauma @strengthintrauma ….for more #generationaltrauma #breakthecycle #cyclebreaker #traumahealing #childhoodtrauma

“A balancing act between warm memories and past conflict” Anyone else? I never enjoyed family dinner when my Dad was around. He always made me sit across from him and I could never look up because he’d say “what are you looking at you crossed eyed c*nt” #notevenjoking #youcanreaditinmybook I remember my mum sticking up for me and then she’d get told to shut up. Now, when I think back to those moments I kinda have a bit of a laugh about it cause you know……..that’s what childhood trauma does to you. You develop this dark humour…but at the same time I think “god, that was so f*cked” I’ve learnt over the years to flip my scripts#, not become a victim of my circumstances, find my voice and charge on forward! And you can too! 💪🏽 never underestimate your own power and strength! #childhoodtrauma #pasttrauma #cyclebreaker #generationaltrauma

Connect back to him/her ❤️‍🩹 What did you say? #chikdhoodtrauma #healingtrauma #generationaltrauma #breakingthecycle

Just sayin……. Our perception is everything. Whether you look at yours/or someone else’s behaviour as a mid life crisis or an awakening you are ‘right’🤯 But these little mindset shifts can make a big difference in your life. An awakening is much calmer on the body than a mid life crisis right? #midlifecrisis #awakening #consciousliving #mindsetshift

This could go many ways for each individual experience…… You never know someone’s back story - it’s easy to judge from the outside. But we are all triggered, wired and driven in all different ways. Some come from abusive homes, some have lost their parents, some raised by foster parents/caregivers — and some raised in somewhat “normal” environments (what’s normal though right). But you never know their story! So ease up and be kind! Leave a “❤️” in the comments to spread kindness and don’t forget to follow @strengthintrauma for more support about breaking generational trauma! #generationaltrauma #childhoodtrauma #traumacounsellor

At times, we don’t even need to speak. Sometimes all we need is a hug — and it can make the difference. Please receive this virtual hug as way to be seen, heard, and acknowledged! You matter and you’re worthy! #childhoodtrauma #generationaltrauma #breakingthecycle #youcandoit #virtualhug

Let’s help each other out here👇🏽 If you’ve experienced childhood trauma and you are doing your inner work, seeking support, and feel like you’ve had breakthroughs - what’s one supportive comment you can leave for someone who has just started exploring their childhood? Lets come together as a community to show others how worthy they are ✨ 🙏🏽 thank you! #childhoodtrauma #trauma #breakingcycles #generationaltrauma #generationalhealing

Look, I’m not against these - I just feel like sometimes we can get caught up in “healthy wellness habits” aka “spiritual junkie” thiiiiiiings and miss the actual point of healing! When I say within I mean - reflect on your insecurities, fears, triggers, core beliefs, patterns, actions, behaviours — and then once you’ve taken a ‘surface’ look at those…. Look at them again, and again, and again —- you will see these will come from ‘somewhere’ in your past. .. Connect the dots 👉🏽 aha moment 👉🏽 insert new thought pattern 👉🏽 insert new behaviour 👉🏽 live your life accordingly ……and then worry about all the juices, courses, podcasts, ice baths etc etc etc 🫣😉 they’ll always be the bandaid 🩹 until you rip that sucker off!!! You have the ability to heal 🙌🏾❤️ #healingjourney #childhoodtrauma #bandaidfix #innerworkisthebestwork

It runs deeper than “looking good” I started running when I was a kid - I later pieced together I was doing this as a coping mechanism to deal with what was going on at home - domestic and family violence. I discovered a love for training - this training has turned into lifting weights for many years, competing in the highest level of CrossFit, becoming a personal trainer/coach for 17 years and a multitude of other experiences with fitness. I had a subconscious drive to build my physique as strong as possible - in case, one day, I had to take on my dad. I use to punish myself in the gym - thrived on pushing myself mentally and physically- and still do. But now, I have an appreciation for what my body and mind can do. Training is and will be a huge part of my life. Those who’ve experienced childhood trauma will express their traumas in different ways. Whilst this coping mechanism is a healthy one - at times it can still do damage. High intensity training is not what the body needs when it’s in high stress. However, moving your body in some capacity WILL have huge benefits to your mental health — to get to the root cause of the trauma will require different approaches to see what works best for you. Training won’t do this alone - but it’s a great start if other alternatives are not an option for you at the moment. Like this post if exercise helps your mental health ❤️ And don’t forget to follow @strengthintrauma for more discussions on breaking generational trauma #generaationaltrauma #childhoodtrauma

Which one resonates the most with you? Slide 5 gets me every time! #childhoodtrauma #trauma #counsellor #breakthecycle #generationaltrauma

Is this you🙋🏼‍♀️ “Majority of the time, you’re all about wanting to heal! But then, cue the plot twist—you end up stuck in the same old loop. 🔄 It’s like saying you want change, yet doing the same routine dance. 💃 You feel like you’re standing at the crossroads, torn between your words and your actions. 🤷‍♀️ Each step forward feels like turning a page in a story where you’re breaking free from the same old chapters. 📖” Real change is about being straight-up honest with yourself. 💪 So, here’s the thing: Healing ain’t a one-time declaration; it’s a messy, deep and confronting journey. 🌈💕 Want your words and actions to finally sync up so you can break free from generational trauma? Simple - do what you say you’re going to do 🤔😵‍💫 (Look, I totally get it’s not that easy right!! But if you get real with yourself - do the things that you say you’re gonna do - and then reflect - what works/doesn’t work. What patterns/conditioning is still showing up - what professional support do I need etc..) let’s not overcomplicate it. You’re worthy of living an amazing life 🌺 #traumahealing #BreakTheCycle #RealTalk #nobs

I love this explanation of trauma from @drjulie This is a great way to understand how those who’ve gone through trauma can cover it up - as coping mechanisms! You can only bandaid it for so long - but as mentioned in the video “healing happens best when we’re safe to open things up” Video credit @drjulie 🙏🏽 #trauma #childhoodtrauma #healingtrauma

Like it or not, these are some hard truths! You may already be aware of these - or maybe not. Some may be triggering, some may not. The point is - you are in control of your life and you can go from trauma survivor to thriver! There is no end point for ‘healing’ each individual is different and we are all HUMAN - having a human experience. Our feelings and emotions are sometimes just that - the HUMAN EXPERIENCE! What’s one hard truth you’ve learnt over the years? #childhoodtrauma #hardtruths #trauma #thepastisinthepast #takethelessons #createyourdreamlife

Ever tried ‘fixing’ your childhood trauma instead of cutting them out of your life? Picture being the hero, hoping for a heart-to-heart, but sometimes, reality hits harder than the script – some wounds don’t heal with words. In this statement, it’s about the courage to choose growth over the same old drama, even when expectations fall flat; because, after all, healing isn’t just about the past, it’s about rewriting the future. Personally, I’ve learnt very early on to stay in my own lane when it comes to healing childhood trauma. When you focus on your growth ‘they’ will become a distant interaction. If you want to deepen your relationships with your own kids after childhood trauma - or looking for more depth in partnerships I have a guide that will help foster deeper connections in your life. Comment “GUIDE” and I’ll send you a DM Together, we can break generational trauma ✨

6 things that’s making your healing worse: 1- Taking no responsibility: what happened to you is NOT your fault BUT it is your responsibility of the quality of life you live. 2. Consuming unnecessary content on social media. Like this post if it’s NOT your jam! When you consume you presume you have it all figured out. Take social media breaks so it doesn’t affect your mental health. 3. Fixating on your childhood - do the work that needs to be done to move on. The more you fixate on it the further you’ll dig - when at times, it’s not necessary. 4. Always self-absorbed - “me me me” mindset. 5. Self-neglect - poor sleep, poor nutrition, lack of movement/exercise. Go to bed earlier, make ‘better’ food choices and move your body. Doesn’t matter what it is - just move - and push through the ‘hard’ feelings! 6. Isolation - avoiding people and places. There may be times where you want to be on your own - awesome! But find a network, community, or say YES to a social event. These are not intended for anyone in particular and you don’t have to over analyse your current situation. These are suggestions and observations on how we as human can stunt our own growth — without even realising! Which one resonated the most for you? Put the number in the comments! Have an amazing day, do something for your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health today ☀️ 🧡 🌺 #childhoodtrauma #healing #traumahealingjourney

When you’ve grown up in a home environment of abuse and your life’s mission is to break the cycle and when you have your own kids - you “yell” at your kid and it instantly makes you feel like a shit parent and that you’ve repeated the cycle 🙋🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ Yep! That’s me! I’ve done it! And I beat myself up massively about it! I too, seek professional help to manage this - among other things because I know firsthand what it’s like breaking generational trauma - but I’m not perfect. And neither are you. You may yell - that’s ok. But what matters most is how you REPAIR after you’ve yelled! I have gone to my daughter in the past and said “I’m sorry for yelling, I can see that it scared you, I am in control of my emotions, it’s not your fault, I will do better next time” With those words - it means more than we can ever imagine. Do you ever hear this from your parents? I never did! It was more like “shut up and don’t say anything” “keep your mouth shut, go to your room” Moral of the story - you’re human, you’re learning how to be your ‘best’ parent on the fly cause no one taught you how to be emotionally vulnerable and connected. You’re going to make ‘mistakes’. If we teach our kids how to REPAIR this will set them up for ‘better’ experiences in life/and relationships. Thoughts? 💭 #childhoodtrauma #healingchildhoodtrauma #innerwork #generationaltrauma #healinggenerationtrauma

If you watched my stories you’d think I hated Valentine’s Day 🤪 To me: it’s not about buying all the things and waiting for one day of the year to express my love and appreciation for others. This can be an expression all year round and it can look different for everyone. Celebrating ‘love’ isn’t always easy, especially those who’ve experienced trauma! You can be your own valentine - spend time with yourself and reflect on something important to you. Send a message to someone and let them know you appreciate them - it doesn’t have to be a romantic partner!!! This is what society makes us believe! Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Tag someone in the comments who you appreciate ❤️ #celebrateyou #appreciatesomeone #trauma #childhoodtrauma

“And as we all know, you can’t heal the pain that you refuse to feel” oooooft Pain sure does travel through families! Generational trauma👋 but I always say - if we can pass on generational trauma we can pass on generational healing! Our little ones who enter this world don’t deserve the disadvantage! They deserve a chance, they deserve love, they deserve opportunities, to be nurtured, to be supported to be taught about the past but not held accountable for the generations before them!!! Put a ❤️ in the comments if you are here to break generational trauma #healingtrauma #trauma #traumarecovery #childhoodtrauma #generationalabuse #breakthecycle

Who has heard this before? The one I’ve had thrown at me MANY TIMES: “It wasn’t that bad…. You think you had it tough, you need to just get over it” Ummm not only it was just a f*cking Wednesday —— it was also…..Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday!!! When you raise the questions *they* will always project it back on you like you’re the ‘crazy’ one making up bulsh*t lies —- so they cover their arses and not have to take accountability! Was this ever your experience? #childhoodtrauma #traumarecovery #passthebuck #takeaccountability #traumatherapist #traumacounsellor #counsellors

Which one resonates with you the most? Hopefully you haven’t / and aren’t experiencing all 5!!!! But let’s be honest here! For some, this is only part of it! Im sure there’s more we could add :( #healingtrauma #traumasigns #cyclebreaker #speakup #holdpeopleaccountable #traumarecovery

If you’re someone that’s challenged by starting a ‘new’ week and you feel a bit down when Sunday night rolls round, and you might be entering a work place, relationship, or location that does not fulfil you, it triggers you or brings up negative emotions —- repeat these affirmations to help ‘shift’ your energy/and perspective. No, it’s not going to change your whole life by saying it once but the act of words/thought/behaviour is a great start to living a better lifestyle! Never forget how powerful you are! The more you face your ‘stuff’ head on the easier the day to day gets 🫶🏽 Drop a ❤️ in the comments if you felt how powerful these affirmations are! #powerfulaffirmations #trauma #traumahealing #traumainformed #innerworkisthebestwork

Ever get caught up on other peoples trauma journeys you end up spending more time following theirs than what you do working on your own personal healing? Yep! I said it! Whilst it’s great to be inspired and empowered by others stories and how they’ve overcome hardship don’t forget to look in your own reflection and spend time studying yourself, your experiences and doing your work to break free of the cycles! So, how do I do that you ask? You write down what inspired you by these people and you realise you’ve already got that within yourself (not mandatory, but the purpose of doing this is to show you that these people on social media are no one to put on a pedestal - they are human, just like you). You then seek out professional help from someone your trust, you can easily connect with and who will be able to provide you with the expert support toward your personal experiences. Let’s not overcomplicate things here! We only start to overcomplicate this when we study people outside of ourselves! You know more about “Social Mary’s” life and her healing journey than you do your own! Start in your own backyard 🙌🏾 👉🏽I have availability for 2 more 1:1 patients to work with for 4 months week to week! My patients overcome trauma within that time - (dependant on the individual & situation) We don’t beat around the bush, we get to the root cause and we apply what’s necessary to live a fulfilled life, daily! DM me: 1:1 👉🏽 If that’s not your thing right now but you’re still looking for support. Go to my Stan Store in my bio and download my therapy journals so you can start looking within (aka start the work in your own backyard). Or DM me JOURNALS 👉🏽At the VERY LEAST become aware of how many other people on here you are ‘studying’ and get honest as to how much it’s actually becoming a distraction to doing your own work! Just remember, no one ever heals their past by watching someone else do it —- it’s ONLY when you apply it for YOURSELF🔥 I believe in you ❤️ #counsellor #counsellors #hereforthetruth #heretoconnect #aintgonnalie #bethechange #stepup #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #traumatherapy

Something I’ve been applying everyday for the last 3 weeks has been ‘mirror work’ - let’s not overcomplicate it here. All you need to do is look at yourself in the mirror, repeat positive affirmations to yourself/a mantra/maybe sit in silence, give yourself a hug say I love you over and over and move on with your day ✌🏽 But in all seriousness, when was the last time you did this? Have you ever done something like this? It’s something I’ll get my patients to do (if it requires purpose) and yes, it’ll feel uncomfortable to start with but like anything, it gets easier and easier! And you WILL enjoy looking at yourself! Benefits: - time for your self - positive self talk/self-reflection - self-worth & value increases - gratitude for yourself - confidence will increase So much greatness to come from this ‘simple’ practice! Who is keen to give this a try? (For more than one day😉) #mirrorwork #innerwork #dothework #counsellors #breakingcycles #bethechange #traumatherapist #trauma #traumahealing

I’m feeling more empowered than ever to improve myself and continue to walk the path of impact! I feel like things change when you become a parent: goals may not happen on your own timeline, getting things done seems harder and longer and just the straight up reality of the unknown day to day 🤪 Now that my 2 girls are a bit older (out of the new born stage and a 6 year old in grade 1) I feel like I have more space/and the capacity to align myself with personal projects that have either been on pause, or I’ve had to scale down due to life’s circumstance. For eg: this IG is a prime example! What I’m looking forward to this year: 👉🏽 season 2 of my podcast 👉🏽 my revamped holistic counselling m’ship 👉🏽 creating more digital products/courses 👉🏽 helping others with their business start ups SO GOOOOD! Was there a time in your life where you’ve paused and picked back up later? #seasonsoflife #itsoktotakeabreak #innerwork #weareallhuman #revamp #counsellors

I am so EXCITED to share my latest heart and soul project 🥲 Ebook👇🏽 Nurturing Connections: How to create emotional bonds with your children after childhood trauma I’ve spent the last 6+ months working on this 48 page guide to help parents create deeper connections with their kids when they’ve experienced childhood trauma. This was birthed out of my own desire to create a deeper connection with my 2 girls. As I know first hand how challenging it is to NOT repeat generational trauma. I have put together 10 chapters that delve into understanding trauma, the impact on parents, how to develop empathy, how to create deeper connections, communication skills - along with activities and tasks that you/and your kids can apply together so you can create the bond you long for or to continue on with what you’re already doing. Who is this for: 👉🏽 parents, caregivers, aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters 👉🏽if you’ve experienced trauma/adversity/hardship 👉🏽 if you who want to create a deeper family bond In this 48 page guide it will take you from understanding how past experiences can impact your current dynamic, to connecting with yourself on a much deeper level and therefore creating a ripple effect to a family transformation. All details and an in-depth explanation can be found at the top of my Stan Store (link in bio) or comment the word GUIDE and I’ll DM it to you 🙏🏽 **I don’t have all the answers to what this “break the cycle” means, nor do I claim to know it all. What I do know is that my mission is big, I wear my heart on my sleeve, I am led by the impact I want to make, and I am still learning too especially when it comes to parenting (I am not claiming to be a parent expert at all). I hope this gives you just a little bit of guidance to create everlasting connections within your family ❤️ Letsssgooooo🔥🔥🔥

A reframe I use with my patients👇🏽 They say “I have anxiety” OR “I have depression” I say…..without giving all the context as everyone has their own unique stories and experiences I will work with them to reframe their story, their language, their labels, their attachments….. This can also come down to the severity of each individual too. If someone is on medication - it can be a different approach. If someone has been diagnosed with the ‘above’ it can also be a different approach. As you hear in this video I tend to use language like: “I welcome you, come and sit with me” “I am in control of how I feel today” I also work on giving it another ‘name’ - Hi “A” you show up in my life when “X” happens……etc etc…. You can see here when the language changes so does the story we attach to, we don’t CLAIM it and WEAR it and when we create a r’ship with ‘said label’ we don’t try and suppress it or trick ourselves it’s not there - and then it shows up in other ways later on…. This is a ‘brief’ way of my approach with patients - and to confirm everyone is different and it comes down to the severity of your experience. I am not saying this approach will necessarily work with those highly diagnosed and you can’t take instagram as a way of ‘healing’ mental health issues…🙏🏽 What are your thoughts on reframing your stories? #trauma #traumarecovery #traumahealing #traumainformed #traumasurvivor #counsellor #counsellors #therapytips

I have a message for you😍 Thank you for being here! I hadn’t posted on this page for about 4-6months when I started this page. Last year was a big year: taking on more study that became a main priority, a new born, managing my counselling business/clients and we sadly lost someone really close to us. It all became “too much” for me to sustain! I understand what it takes to build an online presence and I really started to build such an incredible community here! Through so many DM’s, comments, voice messages and sharing of content! I appreciate/and appreciated it all! This message is to “reconnect” and take “responsibility” of my own actions/choices! I too am learning along the way ☺️ I also believe in taking breaks here and there with social media so it doesn’t consume our whole lives! Things happen organically — and if you ever pull back in certain areas in your life — know that it’s totally ok as well! I also noticed there’s a lot of “INSTA-THERAPY” going around and I have sat with this term for a while - and I’m finding my groove that’s authentic to me, my brand and the community I create! I’m conscious of not falling down the trap of “online therapy” — (as theres no one size fits all - everyone is unique and have different life experiences) there’s a lot of click bait around it - which personally, I don’t feel comfortable about! My next videos will be sharing more on this topic - as it’s important to address! Thanks for being here! I appreciate you! ✨🙌🏾❤️

Does this help you understand the impact of childhood trauma? Take this in and let me know what you think 💭 Childhood trauma casts a long shadow. Shaping the trajectory of one’s life in profound ways. The impact is akin to a stone thrown into a still pond, creating ripples that touch every aspect of a person’s existence. Emotional scars from early adversity can manifest in various forms, affecting mental health, relationships, and overall well-being. The developing brain is particularly vulnerable to the disruptions caused by trauma, potentially altering neural pathways and influencing emotional regulation. Those who endure childhood trauma often grapple with heightened stress responses, impacting their ability to navigate challenges effectively. This may lead to a range of mental health issues, including anxiety, depression, and PTSD. The aftermath of childhood trauma can echo through interpersonal relationships, shaping communication patterns, trust issues, and attachment styles. These individuals may find it challenging to form and maintain healthy connections, further perpetuating cycles of isolation and emotional distress. Recognising and addressing the lasting consequences of childhood trauma is crucial for fostering resilience and healing. Through empathetic support, therapy, and a trauma-informed approach, individuals can begin to reclaim power and control over their lives, rewriting the narrative that trauma once dictated. This was once me! And I’m here to tell you, you can turn your life around! Put a “🙏🏽” in the comments if you feel this!! #generationalcursebreaker #cyclebreaker #overcometrauma #trauma #traumarecovery #traumahealing

Think about it, right ? If you, like me have experienced generational trauma. Do you ever think about HEALING generational trauma? I do. And that’s why my life’s calling is all about healing generational trauma and breaking the cycle. Just like generational wealth! It gets passed down! And I’m sure if someone made a “very poor life choice” the generational wealth could be stopped too (that’s just one simple example so you can make a connection to the reality of the possibilities). It stops with you, but it STARTS with YOU, too! Do it, break generational trauma and starting healing the next generations to come ❤️ And one way you can start doing this - LOOK AT YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR AND SEE, TRULY SEE YOURSELF! Heal within so the next generations don’t go without 😘

The ACTUAL truth about HEALING ❤️‍🩹 It’s hard, it sucks, you don’t want to do it, it’s confronting, it’s not nice, it’s dark, its long, it’s facing all your demons, fears, deepest secrets, it’s ugly, you’ll lose people, you’ll lose family, you’ll judge yourself, you’ll be judged by others…..it goes on right… Its not about: - workout and you’re healed - eat healthy and you’re healed - go to therapy and you’re healed - start yoga and you’re healed - go to a seminar and you’re healed ……the list goes on right? YES, these can all “contribute”. But what healing truly is, IS: - looking at yourself in the mirror - doing shadow work - crying/lots of tears - darkness - feeling like not doing anything - workout CONSISTENTLY, everyday for 12months..2 years+ - listening to your inner dialogue/go within - grief - doing what you know needs to be done when your body and mind is telling you no/and to stop - digging into the past - becoming stronger than your feelings - not using excuses - stop being the victim In this video, this is a glimpse of the shadow/mirror work I do (very personal) - in this experience I work through layers of emotions: grief, guilt, shame, blame, fear, judgement - BUT I also experience a deep love for myself, respect, joy, fulfilment, strength, empowered… I allowed myself to be SEEN by MY(SELF) and feel whatever is being presented. THIS is what healing looks like! Be in it, all over it and don’t let anyone try and tell you it’s all butterflies and rainbows - cause it ain’t. YES! You will experience the magic and essence of what life has to offer you - but you’ve got to face off with the grief and loss before you feel alive and thriving! We are our own HEALERS 😘😘 #healing #traumahealing #traumarecover #mirrorwork #shadowwork #traumahealer #counsellor

As a therapist who works with patients who come to me about their past traumas there are ALWAYS discussions around “I should be ok with this” “but my mum said this” “I train so I should be able to handle it”……. Insert whatever story you want to attach to. The reality is ALL you want to focus on is your own personal journey, at whatever pace that is at. Don’t get caught up in the shoulds, the other people, what you thought it should be like. SURRENDER and witness the beautiful uncontrolled path of healing! “Where ever you go, there you are” ❤️❤️❤️ Did this resonate with you? Let me know how you have healed trauma in the comments! #healtrauma #healingjourney #traumahealing #therapistthoughts #counsellor [ trauma healing, trauma recovery, counsellor, childhood trauma]

Try this ritual to help with healing, it’s called: NATURE NURTURING 🌱 🪴 tending to a small indoor plant: verbalise (internal or external) your gratitude toward the plant, let the plant know you are giving it water to drink, taking care of it so it can grow and thrive ☁️ observe the clouds: what do you see, what shapes, does it take you back to a moment/experience ? 🌬️ feel the wind/breeze on your skin: ask yourself: how does this feel? Where do I feel the wind on my body - observe what your body is doing 🌊 swim in the ocean: give thanks to Mother Earth for blessing your skin with the ocean.. How does the ocean/water make you feel? These are just a few ways to connect to the present moment, but more importantly connect to your(self). When we go through trauma we feel disconnected to our bodies - this is one way we can reconnect. Drop a nature emoji of the one you will do next? #traumahealing #traumarecovery #traumainformed #counsellor #traumacounsellor Counsellor | trauma recovery | mental health Instagram | trauma informed | trauma bonding

When it comes to healing childhood trauma there is no one size fits all! It’s a very individual and unique experience. You can experience some of the above, all at once or all at different times. The key is to ‘not judge’ yourself whilst your body is feeling/noticing any of the changes. There is no timeline for healing - only when ‘you’ are ready ✨ ❤️ #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery #traumainformed #traumabonding #childhoodtrauma

Anyone go through this? I recently had a client experience this *exact* comment from parent… Whist we know our parents do their ‘best’ - a child’s experience is (mostly) their own perception, observation - and completely DIFFERENT than their own parent’s perception 🫢🤯 And the reality - you never have to explain yourself - PERIOD. Drop 💯 in the comments if you feel this . . . . #TraumaSurvivor #HealingJourney #ChildhoodTrauma #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthMatters #BreakingTheCycle #SupportAndEmpowerment #ResilienceBuilding #UnderstandingTrauma #TraumaRecovery #InnerHealing #SelfCareJourney #BuildingStrength #EmpathyAndCompassion #TraumaInformed #SafeHealingSpaces #OvercomingAdversity #MentalHealthAwareness #RebuildingSelf #TraumaAwareness #Counsellor #TraumaCounsellor #StrengthInTrauma

3 UNPOPULAR TRUTHS ABOUT HEALING TRAUMA ❤️‍🩹 1. Trauma doesn’t guarantee immediate relief - if you’re in it only to question “how come I still feel “X” then I encourage you to look at your perspective (read slide for more). 2. It requires embracing vulnerability and uncertainty - lean into all your feelings as much as possible to experience the untapped growth (read slide for more). 3. It may not erase all memories or pain - sorry to break it to you but you will still have thoughts and visions around your experience/s, you’ll develop coping strategies (read slide for more). Embrace these 3 and you’ll see immense growth!! Share one of these 3 truths to your stories that resonated the most with you 🙌🏾 #TraumaSurvivor #HealingJourney #ChildhoodTrauma #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthMatters #BreakingTheCycle #SupportAndEmpowerment #ResilienceBuilding #UnderstandingTrauma #TraumaRecovery #InnerHealing #SelfCareJourney #BuildingStrength #EmpathyAndCompassion #TraumaInformed #SafeHealingSpaces #OvercomingAdversity #MentalHealthAwareness #RebuildingSelf #TraumaAwareness

INNER PEACE ☮️ Finding peace isn’t something that happens outside of you - it’s an internal ‘job’ If chaos is happening around you - how are you in those moments? Are you losing it? Are you internally raging? Are your thoughts spiralling? Are you feeling really angry and uncomfortable? Or are you able to sit with it, be with it, still see joy amongst the chaos…? If a tornado is happening outside of you what’s happening on the inside of you…..AND if a tornado is happening inside of you expect there will be more showing up in your life outside of you…. You’ve reached a level of internal peace where no matter what happens you’re at ‘peace’ with what’s going on - despite the ‘stuff’ — you may experience anger/frustration- but how long do you stay there? True internal peace and happiness won’t have you staying around in anger/frustration/fear/insecurities for too long.. Don’t chase inner peace - like anything, don’t chase it - ‘be’ it! ✌🏽 😘 #TraumaSurvivor #HealingJourney #ChildhoodTrauma #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthMatters #BreakingTheCycle #SupportAndEmpowerment #ResilienceBuilding #UnderstandingTrauma #TraumaRecovery #InnerHealing #SelfCareJourney #BuildingStrength #EmpathyAndCompassion #TraumaInformed #SafeHealingSpaces #OvercomingAdversity #MentalHealthAwareness #RebuildingSelf #TraumaAwareness

It’s comfortable for you to be in pain and misery as that’s all you know - it’s safe and you can control your environment. To live in regular peace, joy, love and excitement it’s potentially unknown territory and you haven’t experienced it long enough to prove to yourself that it could actually be “the way” to live your life. I understand it’s not that ‘easy’ to go from pain to power - misery to joy. HOWEVER, when you take control, action, acknowledgement, get support, apply small changes each day - IT IS POSSIBLE! - No matter what you’re “growing through” Drop a ❤️ in the comments if you feel this and tag one person who needs to hear this message!! TraumaSurvivor #HealingJourney #ChildhoodTrauma #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthMatters #BreakingTheCycle #SupportAndEmpowerment #ResilienceBuilding #UnderstandingTrauma #TraumaRecovery #InnerHealing #SelfCareJourney #BuildingStrength #EmpathyAndCompassion #TraumaInformed #SafeHealingSpaces #OvercomingAdversity #MentalHealthAwareness #RebuildingSelf #TraumaAwareness

Dear Trauma Survivor, set yourself free from the burden of your scars, cut that ball and chain so you can go far. I was once there, in the pain and sorrow. But now I fly high, even if I was promised a no tomorrow. You deserve the best, don’t ever accept - nothing less. Even though the pain you will never forget, trust me when I say the memories you create from taking the next steps - will be all you need to release your next breath! Go, be free, let this be the sign you needed to see 🙌🏾 . . . . #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaRecovery #SelfCareJourney #HealingProcess #MindfulnessMatters #MentalWellness #BreakTheStigma #SelfLoveIsKey #TherapyWorks #InnerHealing #MentalHealthMatters #EmotionalWellbeing #MentalHealthSupport #EndTheSilence #RecoveryIsPossible #MentalHealthWarrior #YouAreNotAlone #MentalHealthAdvocate #WellbeingMatters #SpeakUp

Here’s an approach you can take towards healing trauma! Remember you are not stuck or trapped, you can make radical changes - yes, it takes time, yes, it takes confronting it, yes, it takes trial and errors to see what works for you - but it CAN be done. How you perceive your experiences can be the difference between breaking cycles or not (inclusive of doing the internal work and seeking professional support). A slight mindset shift can propel you forward! #TraumaSurvivor #HealingJourney #ChildhoodTrauma #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthMatters #BreakingTheCycle #SupportAndEmpowerment #ResilienceBuilding #UnderstandingTrauma #TraumaRecovery #InnerHealing #SelfCareJourney #BuildingStrength #EmpathyAndCompassion #TraumaInformed #SafeHealingSpaces #OvercomingAdversity #MentalHealthAwareness #RebuildingSelf #TraumaAwareness #Counsellor #counsellors

TRAUMA & BENEFITS OF LIFTING WEIGHTS 💥 1. Neuroplasticity: it can promote neuroplastic changes that aid trauma recovery by enhancing brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF) levels and facilitating memory processing. 2. Mirror Neurons: observing or participating in weightlifting activates mirror neurons, fostering empathy and emotional resonance among trauma survivors. 3. Polyvagal Theory: it can activate the ventral vagal complex, promoting feelings of safety and social engagement in trauma survivors. 4. Resilience Building: overcoming challenges in training helps trauma survivors develop resilience and coping mechanisms. 5. Embodied Healing: it enables somatic experiencing, facilitating the release of stored emotions and tension related to trauma. 6. Empowerment: by setting goals and achieving milestones, lifting weights empowers trauma survivors to reclaim agency over their bodies and lives. 7. Mindfulness: concentration during weightlifting cultivates mindfulness, reducing rumination about past trauma and worries about the future. So…..go and pick up a barbell ☺️🥰 #TraumaSurvivor #HealingJourney #ChildhoodTrauma #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthMatters #BreakingTheCycle #SupportAndEmpowerment #ResilienceBuilding #UnderstandingTrauma #TraumaRecovery #InnerHealing #SelfCareJourney #BuildingStrength #EmpathyAndCompassion #TraumaInformed #SafeHealingSpaces #OvercomingAdversity #MentalHealthAwareness #RebuildingSelf #TraumaAwareness #Counsellor #counsellors

Credit vs Debt when it comes to counselling/mental health.. Credit = inner work, sessions with a therapist, exercise, quality sleep, nutrition, surrounded by high quality people, nature, stillness, mediation/journalling if that’s your thing……doing things that’s healthy - holistically… Debt = toxic behaviour, poor nutrition, lack of sleep, drugs, alcohol, constant fatigue/burn out, mindless scrolling, victim mindset, lack of exercise/movement… The more you choose ‘debt’ the more ‘arrears’ you’ll find yourself in - hence why you feel in constant vicious cycles! Start living your life in credit - and watch how things change - energetically! You can’t keep living in debt and expect to be abundant with all this credit (aka wellness). Comment 🙏🏽🙏🏽 if this lands! #TraumaHealing #ChildhoodTraumaRecovery #TraumaAwareness #HealingJourney #TraumaTherapy #Resilience #SelfCareMatters #MentalHealthSupport #EmotionalWellbeing #TraumaInformed #BreakTheSilence #InnerHealing #SelfLoveJourney #MindfulnessMatters #GrowthAfterTrauma

Dear Trauma Survivor, I see you, I hear you, I love you - I’ve got you 🙌🏾 Rewrite your story, you were a victim once but you are not a victim forever. The trauma did not make you stronger; what made you stronger was the action you took to get back up, to have tough conversations, to start the healing process, to exercise, to eat better, to get good sleep, to push through when you’ve wanted to give up!!!!! Don’t ever forget your power! Pick up that pen and please rewrite your story 🖊️ 📖 💕 . . . . #TraumaHealing #ChildhoodTraumaRecovery #TraumaAwareness #HealingJourney #TraumaTherapy #Resilience #SelfCareMatters #MentalHealthSupport #EmotionalWellbeing #TraumaInformed #BreakTheSilence #InnerHealing #SelfLoveJourney #MindfulnessMatters #GrowthAfterTrauma

You’ve stopped abandoning your body so it’s stopped giving you extreme signs to listen. Your signs are now peace, flow and nature and now you experience all the beauty around you! What a beautiful place to be! Your body is always listening - so please listen to your body. 🙌🏾❤️ #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery #NatureTherapy #MentalWellness #SelfHealing #HealingPowerofNature #MindfulnessMatters #EmotionalHealing #NatureIsTherapy #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfCareJourney #HealingFromWithin #NatureInspires #EmotionalWellbeing #MentalHealthMatters #SelfLoveandHealing #NatureHeals #TraumaHealing #MentalHealthSupport #MindBodyConnection

TRAUMA ONEUPMANSHIP!! Have you heard about this? I had only recently found out what it was - in short it’s where others will compare their trauma stories and try and get ‘one up’ on each others severity of ‘trauma’ 🤨 I can see how this could happen as it can perpetuate one’s recognition and validation - but seriously…………I can’t believe it’s actually a ‘thing’ What’s your thoughts on this? . . . . #TraumaHealing #ChildhoodTraumaRecovery #TraumaAwareness #HealingJourney #TraumaTherapy #Resilience #SelfCareMatters #MentalHealthSupport #EmotionalWellbeing #TraumaInformed #BreakTheSilence #InnerHealing #SelfLoveJourney #MindfulnessMatters #GrowthAfterTrauma

When you’ve experienced trauma in your life you will often feel like you are constantly in survival mode, just getting by, having feelings of overwhelm — and moments where it’ll feel like it’s overpowering you. In my sessions with clients instead of unpacking the ‘stuff’ all at once which will only create more overwhelm and potentially retraumatise you……I take a different approach…. Think of trauma like scrunched up newspapers (with your story) and what you’ve tried to do over the years is throw the newspaper in the bin by: alcohol, drugs, relationships, food, exercise, yoga, podcasts…….ie: doing all the things to ‘try’ make it go away… BUT - what I do to help my clients is we pull ONE of those pieces of newspapers out and we read what’s on there eg: the situation, how you felt, how it impacts you now, we name people, we name feelings/emotions, we speak the truth around the information to what’s on that newspaper and apply what methods work best for the individual. And then…..once dealt with, we neatly fold that piece of newspaper, with the NEW INFO on it and we fold that one away. And then next time, we pull the next piece of scrunched up newspaper out and we take a look at what’s written on that….and follow the same process. All of a sudden all those scrunched up newspapers that were overflowing internally are now nicely folded with new words/meanings/information on them and tucked away. We now have a better relationship with the “trauma” and it no longer controls us - WE took control of “IT” And now the MAGIC! Clients realise they don’t have to do all the “spiritual junkie” things (courses, books, podcasts, alcohol, emotional eating, crystals, oils..you name it) because rather than suppressing it we’ve addressed it 💥 If this helped you please share with one person who will benefit from this approach 🙌🏾❤️ #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaRecovery #SelfCareJourney #HealingProcess #MindfulnessMatters #MentalWellness #BreakTheStigma #SelfLoveIsKey #TherapyWorks #InnerHealing #MentalHealthMatters #EmotionalWellbeing #MentalHealthSupport #EndTheSilence #RecoveryIsPossible #MentalHealthWarrior #YouAreNotAlone #MentalHealthAdvocate #wellbeingmatters

I was scared to post this cause of what people would think of me. But I told myself I’m not here to plead to others feelings and emotions. I’m here to make an impact and leave a legacy. I too, have been through enough tough shit in my life to not live happy, with love and the peace I have now. My clients come from all types of abuse as a child and as an adult, past drug addictions, suffering anxiety and depression, disorders…you name it! We get to the root cause! We take OWNERSHIP and CONTROL on what we CAN control… And maaaaan I see so many lives being turned around. I say this with all love and respect, I say this to be honest, I say this so ONE person takes that first action to live ‘better’ If it pissed you off and you decide not to follow me anymore cause it’s not your ‘vibe’ that’s ok! You took action and THAT is what matters the most! When I say “I got you” i f*cking mean it - through thick and thin, through win and loss, through anger and pain, through victory and triumph!!! I’m there, for you!!! Which slide resonated the most? . . . . . #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaRecovery #SelfCareJourney #HealingProcess #MindfulnessMatters #MentalWellness #BreakTheStigma #SelfLoveIsKey #TherapyWorks #InnerHealing #MentalHealthMatters #EmotionalWellbeing #MentalHealthSupport #EndTheSilence #RecoveryIsPossible #MentalHealthWarrior #YouAreNotAlone #MentalHealthAdvocate #WellbeingMatters #SpeakUp

Exercise & Trauma ➡️SHARE this reel⬅️ As we all know exercise/fitness/movement is a healthy habit in all lives whether you’ve experienced trauma or not. Exercise helps with staying in a healthy shape for you and your body size/shape, minimises health risks, increases bone density, longevity, confidence, endorphins, physical strength, mental strength……..we know all these things right??? So, why is it beneficial for those who’ve experienced trauma to exercise/lift weight? It helps gain control over one’s body/mind when it was once stripped away, emotional expression and release, cognitive distraction and enhanced focus, resilience building and seeing one’s own worth and value…the list can go on… It its NOT the only way to ‘help’ heal trauma. You cannot rely solely on exercise to heal trauma - and just like anything. There are multiple methodologies that contribute to healing trauma. However, its a bloody good starting point for someone to start their healing journey though….. Exercise combined with different therapies, nutrition dense foods, nature, stillness and quality sleep!!!!!! Now we’re talkin’ about healing!!!!! ➡️➡️FOLLOW for more in-depth convos and information on the truth behind healing trauma⬅️⬅️ . . . #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaRecovery #SelfCareJourney #HealingProcess #MindfulnessMatters #MentalWellness #BreakTheStigma #SelfLoveIsKey #TherapyWorks #InnerHealing #MentalHealthMatters #EmotionalWellbeing #MentalHealthSupport #EndTheSilence #RecoveryIsPossible #MentalHealthWarrior #YouAreNotAlone #MentalHealthAdvocate #WellbeingMatters #speakup

Show up for YOU - even if you don’t feel like it! There’ll be days/times where you feel like crap, you’re stuck in a victim mindset, you’re self absorbed in your own stuff and all you want to do is wallow - this is OK until it’s NOT! What I mean: it’s ok to wallow and feel like shit - but if you continue to do this, you’ve lost power and control - and all the things you’ve worked hard in to overcome can now have way more power over you than you realise (in a negative way). When you pull all your layers back and get to the root cause of your ‘issue’ a typical ‘answer’ is a lack of self-worth and value - feeling like you’re not good enough. Essentially, what you’re saying to yourself is - the younger you is STILL not good enough to live an amazing life……..ohhh daaamnnn that’s deep! So, please, show up and do what needs to be done in order to make ‘little you’ feel loved, safe and secure! I crack these thoughts and patterns way open in my sessions with clients - so I hope these little snippets can make even a small positive impact in your life! . . . . . #TraumaSurvivor #HealingJourney #ChildhoodTrauma #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthMatters #BreakingTheCycle #SupportAndEmpowerment #ResilienceBuilding

Where in your life are you handing over your power and control to your partner, parents, friends….(fill in your person) When someone has the power of your emotional state it frames you as the victim and you can end up in a downward spiral - and whilst the ‘other’ person may need to take responsibility so do you. It’s easy to fall into traps and highlight what the other person isn’t doing to acknowledge you/serve you/validate you — so next time you feel this happening tune into what your thoughts are saying - is it all about the other person - or is it all about how you’re empowering yourself to take control of the situation…? Prove to yourself you can speak up, you can make decisions, you can ask for what you want, you can set a boundary, you can say how you’d like to be treated, you can say what emotion you’re feeling, you can, you can….YOU CAN!!!! That is part of the process of taking your power and control back! Drop a 🔥🔥 in the comments if this is helpful!. . . . . #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaRecovery #SelfCareJourney #HealingProcess #MindfulnessMatters #MentalWellness #BreakTheStigma #SelfLoveIsKey #TherapyWorks #InnerHealing #MentalHealthMatters #EmotionalWellbeing #MentalHealthSupport #EndTheSilence #RecoveryIsPossible #MentalHealthWarrior #YouAreNotAlone #MentalHealthAdvocate #WellbeingMatters #SpeakUp

Give a 👋 in the comments if you’re NOT about that hustle culture anymore - rather, you’re waking up doing the inner work, overcoming past traumas, creating a healthier relationship with yourself, deepening the relationships around you and choosing inner peace over inner turmoil!!! 👋👋👋👋👋👋 all the hands up!!!! Have an amazing day, beautiful humans! . . . . . #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaRecovery #SelfCareJourney #HealingProcess #MindfulnessMatters #MentalWellness #BreakTheStigma #SelfLoveIsKey #TherapyWorks #InnerHealing #MentalHealthMatters #EmotionalWellbeing #MentalHealthSupport #EndTheSilence #RecoveryIsPossible #MentalHealthWarrior #YouAreNotAlone #MentalHealthAdvocate #WellbeingMatters #SpeakUp

If you’re feeling stuck and don’t know ‘how’ to get out of it - then you need to watch this video! What to do: If it ain’t working for you, then try a different direction! You keep getting stuck cause you keep taking the same direction and keep expecting better results! If you want better results, take a different direction! Drop a 🔥 in the comments if you feel this! . . . . . #TraumaSurvivor #HealingJourney #ChildhoodTrauma #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthMatters #BreakingTheCycle #SupportAndEmpowerment #ResilienceBuilding #ChangeDirection #takeresponsibility

Are you using threads? Another social media platform to add to the list 🤪 here to give it a go though! . . . . #TraumaHealing #HumanConnection #InnerStrength #ResilientSoul #HopefulJourney #SupportiveCommunity #EmbracingVulnerability #TogetherWeHeal #TransformingPain #EmpathyMatters #LoveAndHealing #RebuildingLives #SharingStories #FindingCourage #EmbracingHope #CommunitySupport #BuildingResilience #InspiringGrowth #CollectiveHealing #EmbracingScars #igthreads

What I’ve written in this reel comes from what I worked on with a client recently —- we were speaking about the impact our parents have on us. And my client said “I love her from a distance” “can handle her from a distance” along with some other things. I then said: Yes, that’s true. You can. However, it doesn’t matter how much distance you try and create (this person) still owns your power and control and you are still taking conscious and unconscious actions that this person has programmed in you over the years. The manipulation and control is still showing up - so let’s really look at what that “distance” is because they’re a lot closer than you think! And boom 💥 light bulb 💡 moment! This is now how we crack ourselves further open to come back to our own “self” and ultimately gain our power and control back - furthermore, closer to our “home” our truth” If you found this helpful don’t forget to follow for more content like this 🙌🏾❤️ What do you think about this statement? . . . . #ChildhoodTraumaHealing #TraumaRecovery #HealingJourney #ChildhoodAdversity #InnerChildHealing #PTSDAwareness #MentalHealthMatters #EmotionalHealing #HealingFromThePast #TraumaInformed #ResilienceBuilding #TraumaSurvivor #HealingCommunity #BreakTheCycle #SupportAndEmpowerment #HealingIsPossible #UnderstandingTrauma #SpeakOut #BuildingResilience #SelfCareJourney

If you’re hoping to get some fitness done this month and you’re short on time, don’t know where to start or what to do - have a look through these short workouts to complete at home - or the gym if you have access to one. Be sure to read the disclaimer on the last slide. These workouts are designed to get you moving and start to feel better on the inside - which will have a direct effect on the outside! If you have any questions be sure to comment or send me a DM . . . . #HomeWorkout, #FitnessAtHome, #StayFitStayHome, #WorkoutFromHome, #HomeFitness, #QuarantineWorkout, #BodyweightWorkout, #AtHomeFitness, #StayActiveAtHome, #HomeGym

One area I focus on with clients is looking at what their core beliefs are - and how they make an impact in our lives. We make conscious and unconscious decisions based on our core beliefs - so if we know it is unhealthy or not serving us in the most ultimate way then we need to look at redesigning our core beliefs. As mentioned in this video - if you believe all marriages fail you will find the evidence to make this true (either by what you consume or how you may self sabotage a r’ship/marriage). And vice versa, if you believe all marriages are successful you will find evidence to suit that belief. And I don’t mean just voicing it - I mean TRULY BELIEVING “IT” If you are aware you have core beliefs that are driven out of fear, conditioning, programming, generational trauma passed down and you’re looking to “change” it then start looking at your core beliefs and the story you are telling yourself about it. Give yourself a “new belief” (typically the complete opposite of the statement) and look for the evidence to support it. Eg: all marriages are successful - surround yourself with others who are happily married, who’ve been through so much together, have worked through the hardships and have been together for 30/40+ years, read success stories —- do the groundwork to support your belief so it becomes your reality. Ps - using marriage as it’s a simple analysis we can all relate to (in some way or another - also clearing up I am not talking about ‘staying’ in marriages for the sake of, or if there is abuse - that wouldn’t fall under the point of this message). Have you struggled with core beliefs? Do you have any thoughts / comments on this topic? Comment below or DM me! . . . #StayTrueToYourBeliefs #BeliefSystem #InnerConvictions #FaithInYourself #StrongValues #UnwaveringConviction #BeliefInAction #EmpowerYourBeliefs #ManifestingBeliefs #BelieveAndAchieve #PowerOfConviction #IntegrityMatters #LiveYourTruth #StandForWhatYouBelieve #EmbraceYourBeliefs #BelieveInYourselfAlways #AuthenticBeliefs #BeliefDrivenLife #BoldConvictions #corebeliefsmatter

INVISIBLE CHILDHOOD TRAUMA SIGNS 🌱 5 invisible signs that show up as childhood trauma: 1. Hypervigilance: Being on high alert or constantly feeling anxious, as if expecting danger or harm. 2. Emotional dysregulation: Experiencing intense or unpredictable emotions that are difficult to manage or control. 3. Dissociation: Experiencing episodes of disconnect or detachment from one’s thoughts, emotions, or surroundings as a coping mechanism to escape distressing memories or emotions. 4. Chronic self-blame: Continuously blaming oneself for negative events or situations, even when not at fault, due to deep-seated feelings of guilt. 5. Difficulty with intimacy: Struggling to form close, trusting relationships or experiencing challenges with emotional vulnerability and intimacy due to fear of being hurt or betrayed. Its important to note these signs are not the same for everyone. Everyone’s journey is different - it’s not a one size fits all when it comes to childhood trauma + healing. If you or someone else you know is experiencing trauma or wanting to heal from trauma it is best to seek professional help. Remember this is instagram! If you want to see more content like this be sure to ➡️ FOLLOW⬅️ #TraumaHealing #ChildhoodTraumaRecovery #TraumaAwareness #HealingJourney #TraumaTherapy #Resilience #SelfCareMatters #MentalHealthSupport #EmotionalWellbeing #TraumaInformed #BreakTheSilence #InnerHealing #SelfLoveJourney #MindfulnessMatters #growthaftertrauma #strengthintrauma

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